*Please Note: This is not meant to address a serious mental illness. If you or someone you know is suffering from a serious illness, please contact a health provider to seek help. *
Not too long ago, I was in a bit of a rut for a solid week or so. I was feeling left out of a few things and overanalyzing what some people thought of me. I was getting all down on myself, so I started writing my thoughts down and getting it all out.
I found myself writing the sentence: “If people feel negative about you, that’s their issue and their business – as long as you are trying to be the best person you can.” And as soon as I put the pen down after scribbling those words, it hit me. THIS IDEA WORKS BOTH WAYS.
How I feel is my problem. It’s my issue to fix. It’s not someone else’s job to make me feel secure and wanted and included. I am the only one that can control how I feel about myself or my world.
Moreover, I started thinking about the situations in which I felt alienated or left out. All of those situations were:
A. Exaggerated in my head (thanks to that god-awful “victim mentality”), and…
B. 100% a product of my own decisions. I decided to remove certain things from my life and then I wanted to feel victimized because they weren’t there. I never made an effort with certain people and then wanted to feel like those people never made an effort with me.
We can’t have it both ways. Every decision we make, we must own. We must fully commit to them. We are responsible for our actions. We create our reality. Our actions and behaviors have effects, and if we don’t realize we ourselves created those effects, how can we ever feel content?
We will never be happy if we constantly portray ourselves as a victim in our own lives.
So if you’re feeling down, or you’re in a rut, remember to take a step back and realize how you got there. What sucks in your life? Are you throwing a pity party instead of taking ownership of your reality? Realize you have the control. You can shape or change anything in your life based on your attitudes, decisions, and actions.